The only way to end suffering is presence. Your mind will tell you that it’s too simple to be a solution but have you ever stopped to ask your mind why it repeats the same thoughts over and over again? What is the actual point of that loop? There’s no solution, just comfort in what we know, no matter how destructive and dysfunctional. The only way out of the loop, out of the insanity is presence. To be in whatever is happening and wherever we are fully and wholly. We seem to be the only creatures who think that we can deny what is, fight against nature and her current, and actually win.
The funny thing is that whatever is actually happening in the present moment is rarely ever the problem. What rules is fear—fear of loss, sadness, solitude, and emptiness. So, if presence is the end of suffering, the acceptance of what is as it is—then embracing the present moment is the only way out. Life is transient; it is flux. What is, is what is. It might change and it might not, but, most likely, it will.
Here’s what I know about dysfunction, it’s a tolerable disease once you allow yourself to get used to it. You find yourself making excuses; for people, for situations and then it becomes the norm. It’s all you know and you’ve made a home in it. There’s only one way out of dysfunction, watch below to find out!
Have you ever wondered why certain patterns continue to show up in your life? They’ll keep showing up until you learn what they’re meant to teach you. We do not get to move on to the next chapter until we pass the test. We are half-way through the year and it’s time to take stock. Watch below for the questions you need to start asking in order to move forward!
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...Although what you do can be an extension of who you are. Anna Quindlen said it best, "Don't ever confuse the two, your life and your work." Ask someone about who they are and they'll rattle off jobs, titles, company names, etc. I've been guilty of this too. My "aha moment" came when I realized that there is no job, no matter how perfect I am at it or valuable to it, that will ever feel that I am irreplaceable. The system just wasn't built that way...
We live in an age where we are exposed to everything everyone is doing and what that creates is this constant dissatisfaction and disappointment with where you are and what you have.
If you’re not careful, you’ll spend your entire life chasing what other people have, just to realize that there’s someone who has more when you get there.
The first thing that I do in the morning before my feet hit the ground is to begin expressing gratitude and appreciation for all that is, all that I am and all that I have. It’s the perfect foundation for my day and I find that by building my day on this pillar, I’ve already set the tone for what is to come.
What are you grateful for? Would love to hear about it below. 🙏🏾
When working towards a dream or goal, the final hours, the final leg before a breakthrough can be the hardest. How do you push through to the finish line when it feels like you don’t have that last ounce of strength in you to get to the other side?
You are enough. Just as you are. Not in the future. Not when someone else loves you or acknowledges you. Not when you finally have the perfect job. Not when you are finally “rich”. Now. Here. All of you. In all of your present glory. You are enough.